How to stop caring about what other people think? This is that critical question that many people ask themselves after years of suffering and endless fear of judgement.
Humans are social animals, which means that we need people around us.
We need a social life and cannot live in seclusion.
But our constant urge of interaction and desire of social acceptance often turns us into people pleasers.
We all have been taught to respect others and listen to them, and there is nothing wrong in that. But many of us have never been taught to listen to our demands and respect our feelings.
It is important to listen to what others have to say and understand their perspectives, but not at the cost of your self-confidence.
When you hold back yourself and start thinking about the happiness of other people over yours, you kill your dreams and opportunities.
In order to live the life of your dreams and unleash your potential, you need to free yourself from the worries of what others think about you.
8 WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHERS THINK
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1. RESPECT YOURSELF
Think for a second why is it that the opinion of others matters to you so much?
Why do you value their opinion over yours?
Do you believe in what they are saying?
Do you respect yourself? Give an honest answer.
When you respect yourself, the need to seek approval from others no longer remains.
You are no less than anyone!
Once you give yourself the respect you deserve, it doesn’t matter what others say, as you know who you really are.
What others think matters to you because you want them to respect you. You want to prove your worth.
The only person worth proving your worth to is YOU!
Instead of looking for approval from others, learn to believe in and respect yourself.
When you start respecting yourself, everything around you changes.
It doesn’t matter anymore, what other people think. What you think about yourself matters the most.
2.STOP PEOPLE PLEASING
Some people will always disagree with the way you do things or live your life.
There are different types of people in this world. What is relevant to one could be useless to another.
You cannot keep everyone happy!
When you put everyone before you and try to keep everyone happy (which is impossible), you kill yourself little by little. You open doors to anxiety and depression.
Always remember, you have a choice to say NO.
You can choose yourself over everything else. You can be your priority. There is nothing selfish about it.
Be real and be yourself.
Do not try to become someone else, just to please other people.
3.AVOID JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE
Stop hanging out with people who are always ready to judge you and damage your self-confidence.
Your life is yours and not theirs.
It is imperative to respect other people’s point of view and accept constructive criticism.
But if the sole reason for their criticism is to make you feel bad about yourself and disrespect your choices, then it is a red flag.
Such people hold no place in your life. Stay as far as you can from them.
4.YOU DO NOT OWN AN EXPLANATION TO ANYBODY
Stop explaining yourself to people who refuse to understand you.
Some people only want you to do and say things that are right according to them.
They expect you to live your life according to the standard set by them or society.
They just cannot stand anything different. Anything new and unconventional can easily offend them.
Do not give hold of your life to such people, whose only accomplishment in life is, putting other people down.
Their narrow mindedness and lack of empathy is their problem and not yours.
Stop entertaining such people and move on with your life.
5.PERFECTIONISM IS NOT A FRIEND
Perfectionism is overhyped.
There is nothing wrong in trying to do better and becoming your best self.
But setting unrealistic goals to reach perfectionism is harmful.
When you are unable to reach the high standards set by you, you start seeking people’s approval to feel better.
Perfectionism leads to anxiety and depression.
It creates an environment of self-doubt.
You feel the need to hear from someone else that they like you.
The desire to be perfect triggers self-doubt and self-doubt makes you weak.
6.BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU
You do not need someone’s permission to respect or love yourself.
You are the queen of your life and can decide what is best for you.
Be yourself and have fun!
What people think and say about you tells more about them than you.
You cannot control what other people think, but you can control what you think about yourself, so think nice and be happy.
People will say what they have to, and sometimes they would say anything just for the heck of it.
You be you and conquer the world.
7.HATERS GONNA HATE
Believe it or not, but some people are just there to hate.
In fact, haters are your secret admirers.
They observe you very closely and try to keep an eye on your every move.
What do you call that? I call it admiration. Trust me they are obsessed with you.
When people realize they can never become like you, their only hope to stop you from getting better and better is by shaking your self-confidence.
This is when hate words, rumours and rolling eyes start.
Criticizing you makes them feel better.
Do not let these haters affect you.
Let those haters have their moment, and you keep doing what you are good at.
8.YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE
People being people will say something or the other.
Have you heard the famous Aesop’s fable – The Man, the Boy and the Donkey?
If yes, you know what I mean.
If no, then here is a short story for you.
A man and his son were going to a town with their donkey. As they were walking towards the town, some people laughed at them for being fools and not riding the donkey.
So the man and the boy started riding the donkey. After some time another group of men loathed them for being cruel and overburdening the poor animal.
So this time the man get off the back of the donkey and started walking, while his son kept riding.
After some time, another group of people crossed their path and criticized the son for being unkind and letting his old father walk while he enjoyed the ride.
So, this time the son got off the back of the donkey and started walking while his father enjoyed the ride.
When some people saw this, they were quick enough to give their piece of mind to the father for being mean and letting his son walk.
So basically, no matter what they did, they were always wrong according to someone.
In the end, after exhausting all their options to make people happy, they tied the donkey’s feet to a pole and raised him to their shoulders. People still mocked them for being stupid.
During all this drama, the donkey got one of his feet loose and kicked the boy. The boy lost his balance and the donkey ended up falling over the bridge and drowned.
The man and the boy lost their donkey.
They tried to make everyone happy but ended up losing something.
So basically, do not worry about what people have to say because THEY ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY.
Stop worrying about what others think about you and live your life to the fullest.
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