Let’s talk about things to release this summer, for a happier and healthier life.
There’s something about summer that feels like an invitation.It whispers, “Loosen up. Lighten your load. Come outside and remember who you are.”
But somewhere along the way, summer became a deadline. A race to fit into a smaller body, a stricter routine, a brighter version of yourselfself that felt more like a goal than a girl. Like you had to be “ready” for it — polished, perfected, bikini-approved.
You don’t need to become someone new to enjoy your life. You need to release what’s weighing you down — mentally, emotionally, spiritually. You don’t need more pressure. You need permission.
This summer, let’s welcome softness. Slowness. Real joy, Sweaty dance nights and quiet beach mornings. Say no when you mean it and yes to the things that make you feel alive. Be around women who make you laugh so hard you forget about your phone.
And to get there, you have to let go.
Not just of things, but of ideas. Stories. Expectations. The ones you’ve absorbed, inherited, and clung to like safety nets — even when they were weighing you down.
So here’s what you might be ready to let go of — starting now.
1. The “Summer Body” Myth
Let’s be real: your body doesn’t owe anyone anything — least of all society’s ever-shifting beauty standards. Your body isn’t a puzzle that needs to be solved before you deserve a day in the sun.
This summer, throw out the toxic checklist. Stop counting calories before heading to the beach. Stop standing in front of the mirror pulling at your clothes, wondering if they’re “right” or if your body is “enough.” Your body is perfect as it is. It has made you who you are, and that is what matters.
Rock the swimsuit, and take up space on the sand — without second-guessing or apologizing for it. Imagine walking into summer without the fear of judgment, without the need to shrink yourself. You’re not here to hide. You’re here to live, to love, and to laugh with the people who see you — all of you.
So let go. Step into that sunshine. Put on the dress, wear that bikini, take the photo. Be in the moment, unapologetically.
This summer isn’t about perfection — it’s about feeling good in your skin and letting yourself live a little.
2. Hustle Mode
Summer isn’t the time to prove your productivity. It’s the time to reclaim your presence.
But if you’re like most of us, slowing down feels… wrong. Like if you’re not constantly building, creating, planning, or posting, you’re somehow wasting time. Falling behind. Slipping out of relevance.
Here’s the truth no one tells you: you don’t need to earn your rest.
You’re allowed to step back — not as a reward, but as a basic need. Rest isn’t laziness. Rest is what brings you back to yourself.
This summer, what if you didn’t overbook it?
What if you didn’t turn every free minute into a side hustle moment?
What if you just… existed for a bit?
Sat in the sun. Logged off. Let your brain breathe.
The world won’t fall apart if you don’t answer that email. Your worth doesn’t vanish when you pause. You’re allowed to live in the in-between — where you’re not “achieving” something, but you’re still okay.
So maybe this summer isn’t about getting ahead.
Maybe it’s about getting real quiet and remembering that you’re already enough — even when you’re doing absolutely nothing.
3. Being “Low Maintenance” for Other People’s Comfort
Somewhere along the way, “low maintenance” became a compliment.
People love it when you’re chill. When you’re easy. When you don’t ask for much, don’t complain, don’t take up too much space. When you nod, smile, and say, “No worries, all good.”
But let’s be honest: a lot of the time, being “low maintenance” just means you’ve learned how to suppress your needs to avoid being a burden..
And maybe it works. Maybe it keeps things smooth. Maybe people like you more that way.
But at what cost?
Here’s the thing: being “easy” isn’t free. It comes at the cost of honesty, boundaries, clarity, self-respect. And the longer you perform that role, the harder it is to admit you’re exhausted from holding yourself back all the time.
It’s not about becoming dramatic or unreasonable — it’s about giving yourself permission to take up space. To ask questions. To change your mind. To say “no.” To need things. To not always be convenient.
4. Friendships That Feel Like Work
You know the ones.
>Where every text feels like an obligation. Where hanging out feels like managing someone else’s emotions. Where you leave the conversation feeling more drained than when you started.
Not every friendship is meant to last forever — and definitely not the ones that feel like a second job. Especially not in the summer. When the days are longer and the energy is lighter, why are you still forcing connections that feel heavy?
This season is not for over-explaining yourself. It’s not for decoding passive-aggressive messages, over-apologizing, or carrying all the weight in a one-sided dynamic.
So if you’re looking at your social calendar and feeling dread instead of excitement, that’s a sign.
Let this summer be the one where you choose peace over politeness. Where you stop investing in friendships that don’t feed you back.
If it feels like work, it’s probably not friendship anymore.
5. Overthinking Everything
How much of your time do you spend replaying conversations, rewriting texts, overanalyzing facial expressions, or wondering if you were “too much” or “not enough”?
Be honest.
You’ve probably wasted entire beach days stuck in your head — lying on a towel, sun in your face, but mentally spiraling about that one thing you said three days ago. Or obsessing over how you looked in a photo. Or trying to decode a two-word reply.
It’s exhausting. And honestly? It’s stealing your time.
This summer isn’t here for you to be trapped in mental gymnastics. It’s not here for you to stress over tone, timing, or tiny details no one else even noticed.
No over-explaining, no looping thoughts at 2 a.m., no obsessing over the hypothetical.
This summer, choose peace over the mental ping-pong match. Choose ease. Choose quiet. Let people think what they think. Let it go.
Because honestly? Overthinking won’t keep you safe — it just keeps you stuck.
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6. Trying to Fix What’s Not Broken
There’s this weird pressure — especially for women — to always be refining something. Your body, job, your skin routine, your relationship or your personality. Even your rest has to be “productive.”
It’s like if things feel calm, the mind immediately goes: What am I missing? What needs fixing?
But what if… nothing?
Summer has a way of showing you how little you need to be happy. A cold drink. A sunny patch of grass. A loud laugh with someone who gets you. That’s it. No edits. No upgrades.
So this summer? Let things be.
No more solving problems that don’t exist.
That’s not growth — that’s self-sabotage in disguise.
7. Saving Joy for Later
There’s this idea so many of us carry around — that joy has to be earned.
That we can enjoy ourselves after we finish the to-do list.
And at first, it feels responsible. Smart, even. Like we’re saving pleasure for the right time, the deserved time.
But the truth? That “right time” rarely comes. There’s always another task, another milestone, another reason to keep delaying the good stuff.
And somewhere along the way, joy starts to feel indulgent. Like something you have to justify — not something you’re allowed to feel just because you’re alive.
But here’s what this summer is quietly reminding you: joy isn’t a luxury. It’s not a prize and it is not something you should keep on a high shelf until you’ve “earned it.” It’s a need. A way of staying connected to yourself, to life, to the small moments that make all the stress worth it.
So let yourself enjoy things without the guilt. Say yes to the thing you always cancel.
8. Letting Go of the Need for Constant Validation
How many times have you checked your phone to see if someone liked your post? Or asked a friend if they thought your outfit looked good before you left the house? Or waited for someone to give you a compliment before you felt like you were enough?
It’s so easy to get caught in the cycle of seeking validation — whether from social media, friends, family, or even strangers. We’re conditioned to seek out that external confirmation that tells us we’re doing well, that we’re on the right track, or that we belong. It feels good in the moment, sure. But it’s exhausting, and over time, it starts to make us feel like we can’t trust ourselves unless someone else says it’s okay.
This summer, take a step back and let go of the need to constantly seek validation from the outside. Start trusting yourself more — your decisions, your choices, your instincts. You’ve lived your life with all the ups and downs, and you’ve gotten this far. You’ve figured out what makes you happy, what feels right, and what doesn’t — and that’s enough.
You don’t need a constant stream of likes, compliments, or outside praise to remind you that you’re worthy. You’ve got everything you need within you.
Your Season to Shine
Summer isn’t a performance. It’s a season. A season that wants you to taste sweetness, to move slowly, to remember your softness.
So here’s to a summer of lightness. This summer, it’s about choosing what feels light, what feels true, and leaving behind what no longer serves you.
What are you letting go of?
